1 Peter 5:1-3 So I exhort the elders among you, as a fellow elder and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, as well as a partaker in the glory that is going to be revealed: 2 shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight, not under compulsion, but willingly, as God would have you; not for shameful gain, but eagerly; 3 not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock.
This passage reminds me of 1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
When I first read this passage years ago I thought it meant that I would need to correct the person that looked down upon me because of my age. This seemed like a great text to my prideful self. If someone didn’t think I could lead because of my age, I had a text a correct them. But actually the pressure is on me, not the despiser. I have the ability to keep people from actually picking up on my “youth” by the way I live. This goes along with Paul saying in 2 Timothy 2:22 “So flee youthful passions and pursue…” This means I should rarely, if ever, have to pull rank and say “I am the leader, listen to me.” But instead people should listen because they see me as a leader. Leadership is about influence not control.
Domineering, or controlling, is about manipulation and usually involves some kind of legalism. As Pastor Justin Holcomb says its more “if, then”. “IF you don’t come to Community Group THEN your not a legit Christian.” “IF you don’t read your Bible THEN God doesn’t love you as much.” Domineering Pastors use guilt to motivate people.
Examples to the flock are different because they can’t help themselves in pursuing Jesus, because he has loved them so well. Healthy influence flows out of the Gospel of grace. Jesus has already done the work, fulfilling the law and freely forgives us. Its about what we GET to do in response to him, not what we HAVE to do. We GET to be a part of a Community Group because we learn more about the God who has forgiven us. We GET to read the scriptures to know Jesus.
Question: Outside of preaching, what’s the ratio of people ASKING how they can follow Jesus vs. you TELLING people how they can follow Jesus? Leaders get chased by people. Controllers drag “followers” after them.





